How can I Recapture a Sense of Hope?

Amazing. I had to share this one.

Don't Lose Hope

To be hopeless is to lose all motivation to do what we need to live. It is to be in a deep, dark, well without a rope. And even if it were there, we wouldn’t have the energy to climb it.”

– Dr. Winfried Sedhoff

Having hope matters. It matters a lot. Anyone who’s lost their sense of hope can tell you that.

But hope is something that can fade out of our life when awful things have happened …

Or when we’ve hoped for far too long, and nothing seems to change.

Hope can start to drain away.

If this is your experience, then what steps can you take to start to recapture that lost sense of hope? Here are some suggestions:

1. First, take proper care of your physical needs. You need to have an adequate amount of nutritious food, sleep, rest, gentle exercise – everything…

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Toxic Leadership

Tim Ferriss explains the damage that toxic leadership can cause.

When you are working with someone that is toxic, it makes your time at work unbearable. Its worse when that toxicity comes from the top. Toxic leadership kills staff moral, productivity, and growth.

Here are some of the characteristics I have seen just recently.

Selective Bullying: Targeting a certain employee or group with aggression and giving favors to others without a just cause. They mistreat the individual or group in a way that the ones receiving the special treatment notices.

Lack of Knowledge and Unwilling to Learn: Leadership that is unaware of the job done by others and show not willingness to learn. Cross-training is essential in almost every field and profession. If you don’t know the job, how are you able to supervisor and make sure the work is getting done?

Pity Parties: When a supervisor is corrected by the higher-ups, they come and ask those they supervisor “Did I do anything else wrong?” or “I was just trying to help out but I guess I was wrong”. Wow!!! That is textbook narcissism.

No Vision for Growth: It doesn’t matter what field or profession you are in, “If you’re not growing, you’re dying”. Even in the crazy world we live in now, we need to always be looking towards growth. We need to push ourselves to be innovative or we will grow week. Toxic leaders throw their hands up and say “There’s nothing we can do to grow”. Translation, “I’m not going to try”.

Lying: No need to elaborate on this one. When a leader shows deception, faith in that leader is lost.

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Safety Tips Part Two

Part one had safety tips that involved purchasing things. Although these are very helpful, it doesn’t have to be expensive to be safe.


There are a lot of evenings that I walk into a dark house and I’m all alone. That can be super scary but it doesn’t have to. I have several people that are available on the phone when I get home. I will call when I pull onto my street, I start calling and I keep talking until I’ve been in the house for a while and I feel comfortable. Lights are on and I have everything out of my car. If you can’t get ahold of anyone, you can hold your phone up to your ear and pretend.


The use of codes can be very helpful too. I have heard lots of stories about people calling 911 but they are not able to speak freely. They will order flowers or something that alerts the 911 operators that something isn’t right. I have those with my friends and family. My tribe knows that if any of us starts talking about a certain topic, help is needed.

If you or someone you know is experiencing or has experienced domestic violence, help them contact the local family crisis center. I’ve included a link to the national domestic violence hotline. They have experts that can help put together an in-depth safety plan.