Grayer Gardens

1. Are you named after anyone? I was actually named after one of my dad’s ex-girlfriend. My Mother loved the name and changed the spelling.

2. When was the last time you cried? Not sure. I’m sure it was at a sappy movie.

3. If you were another person, would you be a friend of yourself? Maybe.

4. Do you use sarcasm a lot? Me? Yes. And no, I’m not using sarcasm right now.

5. What’s the first thing you notice about people? Eyes. You can tell a lot about a person’s character from their eyes.

6. What is your eye color? Hazel

7. Scary movie or happy endings? Scary!

8. Favorite smells? Fresh flowers.

9. What’s the furthest you’ve ever been from home? Paris, France. The city of love was absolutely lovely. I plan on going back one day.

10. Do you have any special talents? I can walk on my toes. It’s kind of freaky, but always a crowd pleaser.

11. Where were you born? II was born in the great state of Georgia.

12. What are your hobbies? I love playing tennis. I don’t get to play it a lot, but when I do, I play until I fall.

13. Do you have any pets? I had an amazing dog, Baby. She passed in December. I had her for about 14 years. I loved that dog.

14. What do you want to be when you grow up? Some would say that I’m already grown, but nope. When I grow up, I want to be a writer. I have several scripts that I am working on for television shows.

15. Who was your first best friend? I have two. One of them I met when I was six and the other one when I was 16. It doesn’t matter how long we go without talking, I know I can call them up and talk like we never skipped a beat.

16. How tall are you? 5’2.

17. How many countries have you visited? 4

18. What was your favorite/worst subject in High School? Math. find y??? Y left, you just have to except it an move on.

19. What is your Favorite drink? Animal? Perfume? Drink is Merlot. Animal is dog. Perfume is Red.

20. What Sports do you play/Have you played? Tennis

21. Who are some of your favorite? I’m old so I only have one. Matt Santoro.

22. How many Girlfriends/Boyfriends have you had? Not sure.

23. Favorite memory from childhood? The first time I saw the beach. I was 15 years old. I had lived in the Mid-West and New Mexico so I never had an opportunity to go to the beach before then. Mother took me and my brothers. She really didn’t have the money for a vacation at the time, but she made it work.

24. How would you describe your fashion sense? Tired and un-ironed.

25. What phone do you have? (iOS v Android? Iphone.

These are always fun to go through an answer.

Have a great evening!!!

Sounds like the title to a horror movie. It would probably be a good one since kids in horror movies are terrifying. But, I digress …

The title is very appropriate for what I witnessed tonight. I am a baseball mom. My kids play baseball and have for years. They love the game. Baseball is in their blood, and is now in my blood.

My son calls me the “Loud Baseball Mom”. I am the mom that is at every game sitting in the stands yelling. No, I am not the one yelling at the umps. I have had some cross words to yell at umps, but it’s rude to yell at the blind. Just kidding. I make a point of learning the names of all of the kids on the team. Every time those kids are up to bat, I’m the loud mom shouting encouraging things. “You got this”, “You can do it”, “Bring our boys home”. If they fumble, make an error, or just has their head up their rear-ends, I yell “Shake it off”, “It’s alright”, “Focus on the next play”. I make it a point to never yell anything negative towards the other team or the umps. Why would you do that? They are kids. They need to have fun and learn the game.

I was watching my kiddo play tonight. He had a good game, a single and a double.  There was a game going on beside us. I’m standing at the bleachers and I hear yelling (not strange at the ball field), but then it was angry yelling. I quickly turn around and I see parents and coaches yelling in anger. I see the kids, start mimicking the anger that their parents are showing. Parents were yelling profanities in front of everyone. I saw little children become upset and sob because they were so frightened.  A fight ensued and law enforcement was called. Not a good night for baseball.

Parents need to remember, that we are always teaching our children. They are always learning. Even when we aren’t looking. We may sit with them for hours on end trying to teach them about cells, or World War II, or (God forbid) common core math. I had to Google that to be able to teach that to my kiddo. It was not fun. I think my kiddos were learning when I was teaching them. I also know that they are learning when I do or say EVERYTHING. Children soak up everything we do and say. If I can take a loss with grace and class, they see that and they (I hope) will do the same in life. When I act like I have no class, they will, down the road, do the same.

The next time you’re in traffic and someone cuts you off, you may have the inclination to give that driver the finger or yell something that rhymes Toe Tuck Yourself, look at who is watching and learning. When you’re at your kids ball game, and the ump makes a bad call, stop yourself. Are you teaching your Babe Ruth how to be a jackass, or you teaching them good sportsmanship.

Our kids are always learning from us. Make sure you’re leaving them with lessons that will serve them well in life.

 

It’s been awhile, but I’m back. And I promise, I will TRY to blog at least once a week (more if you’re lucky).

I have been watching a lot of TV here lately. I mean A LOT. Some would say I need a hobby, but I would tell them to screw off. It’s research. More about that later.

I came across a documentary series by Leah Remini on Hulu. I know, I’m behind the times, but here I go…

WOW! What in the … I can’t…

In 2013, Leah Remini escaped the church of scientology. Let me repeat that, she escaped from the church of scientology. She and a former high ranking official from the church, Mike Rinder, go hither and yon talking to others that have ESCAPED the church or those who have done research on the church and it’s inner workings.

The stories on this show are hard to believe at times. The stories from those that grew up in the church completely break my heart. When I hear stories of children being abused allegedly (I don’t want to get sued), I just want to go “Momma Bear”.

I did not want to take sides until I did my own research. I looked through tons of research, both pro and con. I poured over statements from present and former members. I read through some of the churches literature. I think Leah and Mike are right in their fight to help others escape the church. Please remember, I said think. This is just my opinion so chill the hell out. I feel safe that no one from the church will read/comment on this review as they are not allowed to read anything that is against the church. So, no rude comments towards me or I’ll write up a knowledge report on you.

I am not going to bash anyone for joining the church. I am very much someone that looks to do good in this world. I get it folks. But what I don’t get are some of the church’s policies and the abuse that is alleged by so many individuals.

I would recommend this show to any freaks like me that will sit and binge watch documentaries. Remini and Rinder appear to aim at getting the stories told, and helping other that have been hurt by the actions of the church.

The first two seasons address policies of the church and the major players. They talk about the ranch thatscientology bad kids are sent to (again allegedly), the church’s views on children and family (allegedly), disconnecting from suppressive people (allegedly), and allegations of fair gaming.

A&E has renewed the show for season 3 with no release date revealed. I am absolutely excited. I also got a little giggle when I found that the church blocked me from the church’s Facebook’s page. I wonder why…

So, without getting into too many details, last month I found a job that would be perfect for me. I have the experience and the education that would be perfect for it. I applied the second I saw that the job was available. I had a rockin’ resume, amazing references, and so on. I thought I had it. I went in for the interview prepared and looking awesome. Very professional. I killed it in the interview. I was told that I would hear about a second interview today.

Today is here. I was ready to go and kill it again. I got a call and I felt excitement in my heart.

Long story short, I didn’t get it. I received a very polite phone call informing me that they offered the position to another candidate and it was accepted.

In that split second, I felt my heart break, but I knew a couple of things.

1. I need to keep it professional. I could not let my voice crack, or let the person hear my heart break over the phone.
2. I need to make the decision on how to react to this news.

I learned along time ago, that no matter what I feel, I have the ability to choose how to react. Yes, I felt disappointment, but I am not letting that get me down.

Steps to dealing with disappointment.

Step 1. Not PANIC!!!!  Your first instinct may be to cry, or scream, or throw things. You need to keep your wits about you. If you study crisis situations throughout history, you will find one thing to be true. PANIC doesn’t help.

Step 2. Understand the situation. Even though, I felt (and think, and know, etc…) that I was right for this position, they did not think so. I did all of the right things but it didn’t work out in my favor.

Step 3. Surround yourself with people that understand you. Make it clear to the people you are with as to how you need them to be there for you in these times. For me, I need people to know I don’t like pity. I don’t want to look at someone and see pity in their eyes. Gross! I need to hear, “Too bad”, “no worries”, etc… If you’re someone that needs a bowl of ice cream, make sure that the people in you life know this.

Step 4. Keep moving. If sharks stop swimming, they drown. People are like sharks in that if you stop moving, growing, trying, learning, striving … you will drown. Find something to keep you going. Your current job, a hobby, and so on. Don’t let a NO stop you. Remember, you are a shark!

Even though life will sometimes kick you in the teeth, just know that it can and will improve. That job was not on my path apparently. There is something else out there for me. I need to keep my chin up and just keep going.

Until next time…